Hello Bonnie! I have been reading your book, Whitespace and it is so refreshing. I felt as if I was telling my story. Growing up also being Asian, my parents had ingrained the fear of ruining our family’s reputation so deeply within me that I learned early on to do what was asked and not shed a tear in front of them and to keep all my feelings to myself. This of course as you had described, left me struggling deep within and telling myself I don’t need to talk about it. Crazy isn’t it, how one little thing opens up a huge can of worms and when I think I was doing fine, I am feeling that very same girl I once felt. Like you said, I am there at the very same spot I was when all the hurt began. So thankful for your needed messages in your book. It makes me feel that I am not the only one suffering silently. The society we live in tells us or at least to me, tells me to just suck it up and keep moving, never fully resolving it cause I don’t want to burden my husband and kids with issues I had decades of years ago. They don’t want to see me so broken nor do I want to be that vulnerable. Truly helps me to get past my fears and to speak honestly about those suppressed feelings. You are a lifesaver Bonnie!!! I would be honored to meet you in person someday!